How do i show i care without feeling down when somone is depressed?

what is stuff to do? the person gets therpy and pills but is depressed and i want to be nice but not feel down. Like i could bring flowers or write card or hug? ideas?

How do i show i care without feeling down when somone is depressed?
Sometimes the best advice is the most simple:





Ask your friend how you can best be helpful.





What may be helpful to one person with depression, may be annoying or maddening to another. If the request is reasonable, and you can fulfill it, go ahead. Her answers to what might be helpful could suprise you (could be anything from "sit with me for awhile" to "could you help me complete this form" to "would you pick up my medication for me).





Your friend is fortunate to have someone like you in her life who cares enough to ask how best to help.





Best of luck,


~M~
Reply:You could try listening without passing judgment, and then afterward being brisk and businesslike when you decide to cart the other party off to a fund activity together to cheer him or her up.





The trick is to combine sympathy with practicality.
Reply:You can take the person out to the movies or out to lunch. Any change in environment might do the person good and you can stay positive and up beat. Laughing is contagious.
Reply:Um I think you just need to be yourself, meaning act the way you always act around the person to show them this problem they have does not change anything. As well make sure that your there for the person if they need to talk. Also I don’t think it’s a bad thing to let your guard down by feeling down cause it shows you care.


I guess in the end you just need to be there for your friend, um maybe you could cheer the person up by doing something you guy’s have not done in a long time which reminds both of you of the good times. Yea maybe you could brings flowers and write a card but it’s up to the type of person they are, but I think a hug is a good idea and maybe just talk though how their feeling, it helps somethings.
Reply:Those are really great, considerate ideas. Remember: Be yourself, be kind, be open, don’t try to overcompensate, create distractions, go for a walk or hike together, cook dinner together, try to refrain from negative speech. Be supportive, don’t be critical. Reassure the friend. A good friend asks difficult questions about the depression, in hopes that the depressed friend can feel comfortable to ask for help!
Reply:Work on it before you meet her. Imagine in your mind you are strong, that you will not feel down because she is depressed, and then when you are with her, go through the mental script above.





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Reply:just bein there is helpin! always be there to listen when she needs to talk... its not the physical things that are most important, its the emotional support that really counts.


but on sayin that flowers never hurt either :)


best of luck to ur friend..